Monday, January 14, 2008

Can we make this a slam dunk?

Harry was dry-heaving this morning when I woke up.

This would be news not unimportant of itself, but given the loss of his sister last week, and the guilt I'm experiencing over not getting her to the vet sooner, it's wonder I'm not at the vet right now.

Coupled with the fact that this recent minor tragedy has cemented my opinion that Comic Book Guy is NOT the one for me, I am batting 0 for 400. I'm just wondering how else I can mix my sports metaphors to reflect my darkish outlook at the moment.

4 Comments:

Blogger Andre said...

I'm sorry to hear this. I hope Harry is ok!

Not that it's any of my business, but what happened with Comic Book guy?

1/14/2008 11:40:00 AM  
Blogger bibliofilly said...

Well, actually, NOTHING happened with Comic Book Guy, which is kind of my point.

Far be it from me to expect or demand any specific treatment from another person, but in the past week C.B.G. has been completely absent as I waited to receive Little Girl's diagnosis, discovered she was terminal, prepared to say goodbye, and had her put to sleep.

I know that people respond to loss in different ways. C.B.G.'s response has been to offer a vague, "let me know if you need anything," and to disappear. When I asked if he could help by driving me to the vet with Little Girl, he said that he would be too busy at work. The night I said goodbye to her, he saw fit to offer to come over and keep me company, but wanted me to wait till it was convenient for him to do so, i.e., after he had gone home first, showered, shaved, eaten dinner, logged on to the Internet, etc. I responded that I needed to go to bed and get some much-needed sleep rather than hang out. Then, nothing in the following days, except another request that I "call him if I want to talk." In the meantime, friends and acquaintances and colleagues have regularly checked to see how I am, offered to bring me lunch, and generally been supportive, which I thoroughly appreciate, by the way.

I realized that this distance has been the norm these past few months, and that the lack of connectedness with C.B.G. made him one of the last people I would be likely to turn to in moments such as this. And that's when I knew that this was not going to work out.

I haven't spoken to him about it, but it is inevitable. When I'm not quite so exhausted, I will need to address it...

1/14/2008 12:31:00 PM  
Blogger karen said...

Oh, rats - I had hopes for CBG but totally agree that his response to your recent crisis is probably endemic to his personality and unfortunately takes him off the lasting relationship candidate list.

Pixie sends her love to Harry and hopes he feels better.

1/14/2008 08:34:00 PM  
Blogger Andre said...

I totally agree too. And I also had hopes for this dude even though I've never even seen him.

I'm glad your friends have been there for you during this time.

Here's to Harry's health!

1/15/2008 12:10:00 AM  

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