Monday, June 04, 2007

miss match 2

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with it, really, because I'm looking again too, but I have seen at least 2 people I dated in the past few years on Match now.

Is it mean-spirited of me to say that I know WHY they're looking again/still? I must be careful here - there are two sides to every story. Still, I know I was right in thinking that neither was right for me.

Bachelor #1 had a chip on his shoulder about his own opinions and was pretty intolerant of the likes/dislikes of others. His rant about how much he hated "Lost in Translation" was almost a deal-breaker. I went on one date with him and decided, in the end, that although we *could* talk about things like music and books and movies, it would probably wind up being painful. That, and I had serious doubts about being the only person with a car in a relationship with someone who lived 20 miles away.

Bachelor #2 stated and re-stated his preference for kind and honest women, but was rather cold and awkward himself. Although he liked the same quirky music and movies I did, I could never find the warmth. When I broke up with him after 5 dates, he complained that I did not trust him and that I made no effort to initiate activities. My take on it was that he didn't earn my trust and that he seemed too distant for me to connect with. Next!

Update: since the new profile went up I've had 112 new views of my profile. I got an email from a gentleman in Spain who assures me that he can fly anywhere to meet me and that I look "cute and kind and responsible" (how does one look responsible?), and a "wink" from a fellow who would like me to know that he is not into game players. Both were discarded. Not my cup of tea!


Blogger karen said...

Ask Mr. Spain if he would fly you over to meet him...might be fun and, if it didn't work out, at least you'd be in Spain. :)

112 views and only two contacts? Maybe the others are screwing up some nerve?

6/04/2007 01:10:00 PM  
Blogger bibliofilly said...

I could just be cynical, but I'm pretty sure Mr Spain probably wants a green card more than he wants a date...

6/04/2007 02:08:00 PM  
Blogger karen said...

Certianly possible, althought Spain isn't like Russia or Mexico in terms of people desperately wanting to leave. I was being opportunistic - who else is inviting you to Europe?

6/05/2007 10:45:00 AM  

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